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Lordy, Lordy…
Tony’s 40!!!!!!!!
We’ve been chanting that silly saying since Tony turned, oh, maybe 34? I thought it was hysterical. Especially because he is Significantly Older Than Me. It sort of felt like rubbing salt in the wound. What does it say about me that I find that fun?!
Whatever.
So today is actually the bonafide 40th birthday of my dear husband. He will never see his thirties again. He has officially entered his fifth decade (I say this last one a LOT. I think he likes it).
And he has the grey hair to prove it. Although, don’t tell him, I love his grey hair. I hate that men age so well but it’s true. I love him and find him more attractive now than when I met him before he was 30!
He is taking his Big Day with a grain of salt. Me? I’m a mess. I have been known to randomly burst into tears all week thinking about it. Is it possible that *I* am having his midlife crisis? I thanked him tonight for paving the way for me to turn 40 someday. I’m certain it will be far less traumatic for me now that he’s paved the way. It’s all about me. I may by myself a sports car. And pick myself up a girlfriend.
Really the primary reason I’m so sad is because I’ve actually been thinking and planning out this day since we started that silly chant years ago. Back when his extended family were still closet assholes and his kids weren’t thousands of miles away and when I was pretty sure we’d be Financially Set For Life by now. Best laid plans. I wanted to throw a huge party, I wanted to do the whole “This is Your Life” thing. Along the way, when I realized that wasn’t going to happen, I had visions of flying us off to Vegas together. Alone. Or even with the kids (and a nanny or grandparent). We love Vegas. Vegas loves us. I know Tony would be soooo happy turning 40 in Vegas.
But that’s not what I have to offer. Instead I have a few dumb gifts and dinner out in a borrowed minivan. And he says he couldn’t ask for more but it isn’t what *I* wanted for him. Despite his flaws, he is my best friend in the whole world, he is my rock, he holds me every day when I cry, he listens to my endless rants about crazy people at work and doesn’t zone out and get distracted (like I do). He lets me choose the meals and the movies and the vacations and the way we spend our free time. He pretends to be both happy AND supportive when I insist on putting up 4 Christmas trees. He tells me he’s proud of me and he takes the kids to playgroup or dance class when I’m just tired and don’t feel up to it. And what do I have to give in return? Not a special day. Not a special trip to Vegas. Nothing memorable at all. Just us.
I love you, Tony, and I know it will be enough. I wish it could be so much more. Vegas in 2019 :)
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Thank you my Sunshine! I *do* love Vegas, but all I NEED for my birthday to be perfect is you.
I love you.
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Good grief you guys, I hadn’t cried yet today(its 9:16 in the am) and I thought I was going to be ok,
and then you two shot that plan to hell:)
Happy birthday Tony, praying for this next decade to bring you joy and peace and maybe more than a little prosperity :)
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awwwww… I’m getting a little weepy too! Happy Birthday Tony. And Nicki, Be NICE. Us old people do not like being reminded how very old we are!! (the big 4-0 is a mere two years away for me… and if anyone says that “Lordy Lordy” thing to me, I shall have to kill them.)
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Yes, Nicky be nice, I hit the big 40 eleven years ago. I have to say, it was harder for me to hit 20 than to hit 40 and 50 was no big deal. Who says you have to celebrate this significant milestone this year, you could always do something next year or whenever you have the dough. Like an IOU of sorts. One of my most memorable trips was a trip to Tuscany to celebrate my 40th birthday along with 2 of my most special friends (who were also turning 40 or recently turned 40), but I was 41. It was still special.
Happy birthday Tony
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Happy Birthday Tony!!!!! You guys are so cute together!
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Congrats Tony, Very nice comments from your bride, Nea. Milestone birthdays are great…just wait until the 1st grandchild comes for reality to set in!!!
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I got SO behind in blog reading and I’ve missed yours a ton, and just wanted to say happy belated birthday to Tony. I hope it was as great a day as possible, tears and all.
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